My Coming Out Story

Let me get this thing straight, we don’t need to come out. We have the right to keep it to ourselves and not feel pressured by other people wanting to know who we are. Late ko na yan na-realize. Pero di ko pinagsisisihan na naging totoo ako sa pamilya, sa mga kamag-anak, at sa mga kaibigan ko kasi ang sarap nya sa pakiramdam.

Kailan ko nga ba naramdaman na mayroong hindi “typical” sakin? And by not typical, I meant like unusual and different from what we were told as we grow up, from what we saw on tv and movies. Nasa elementary ako noon nung nakaramdam ako ng paghanga sa kapwa ko lalaki. Crush kumbaga. Pero wala akong pinagsasabihan kasi ang pagtingin ko noon ay mali iyon at talagang di ko in-entertain yung thought. Nagtuloy yun hanggang high school. Kahit other part of me likes boys, nagka-girlfriends ako non. And I also liked that feeling, I also like girls. I experienced na may nag dump sakin na girl. I experienced being rejected nung nag ask ako kung pwede akong manligaw. I experienced puppy love with a girl. Nakakatuwa sa pakiramdam na naranasan ko iyong mga bagay na yon.

But at the back of my young, immature mind: I need to get to know myself even more. I need to explore.

With things like this, where is the best place to explore? Manila.

2011. I started studying in San Beda-Mendiola for College. It is the year when I opened up myself to meeting guys and realizing my identity. The first guy I dated was a nurse. I met him on Facebook. Ganon pala yung feeling na expressing your attraction to the same sex. Ang daming adjustments kasi nga we’re both guys. Di ko alam paano o anong gagawin. Ang alam ko lang, gusto ko sya kahit lalaki sya at masaya ako. Sa kanya ko na-experience yung first kiss sa guy.

Pero dahil nga less knowledgeable ako at ang bata ko nun (lame excuse, I know), umayaw ako at nag stop kami mag date. Di ko rin masabi kung anong gusto ko – relationship, fun, or experiment lang.

2011 or 2012. I had my first boyfriend. It didn’t work out well, I think 3 months lang kami.

2014. Nag level up ako sa next boyfriend ko. We started talking naman on Instagram. Naalala ko yung first date namin, we watched Bride for Rent of Kim Chiu and Xian Lim. We had a good run actually.

Hindi ko pa sya napapakilala nun kila Mama. Medyo naramdaman ko na parang teka alam na yata nila Mama na may boyfriend ako nung time na tahimik at bad mood ako. Sabi sakin ni Mama at Ate, “Bakit ka ganyan? Magkaaway ba sila Vincent at Eric?” Mga characters sa My Husband’s Lover noon. Nagulat ako nung tinanong nila sakin yan. Tawa lang yung reaksyon ko. Natuwa ako actually.

Then this one night came. I arrived home from a date. Me and Ate were living together in an apartment here in Manila. She asked me where I have been to and that Mama is looking for me and whom I with. I said that I was with a friend.

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CMBYN – favorite scene!!!

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Definitely one of my favorite scenes in the movie.

Ang relatable nya lang. Alam nyo yung feeling na masaya ka lang, sobrang masaya lang, kasi kasama mo yung taong mahal mo. Mapa-lunch or dinner date, travelling, doing weird and nonsense things, even just laying around doing nothing. Oo weird na ngingiti ka na lang bigla bigla pero kasi uncontrollable eh, undescribable yung feeling. Umaapaw yung saya. Kontento ka. Priceless moments yung mga ganito kaya dapat tini-treasure natin. Pati yung kasama mo, priceless.

– Call Me by Your Name (2017)

Call Me By Your Name.

Some things in our lives happen only once.

There are chances and risks which we take, there are some which we don’t. It is fascinating and frightening at the same having this thought of what could have happened if you did this, if you did that. Fear stands in the way and holds us back from doing the things that will make our hearts happy. Fear of non-acceptance from family, friends. Doubts in morality. Instability in life. These thoughts and many others come along with our self-discovery. It’s for us to figure it out; on how we will manage to be true to ourselves, to accept who we are, and to live a life based on how we want it to be. Continue reading “Call Me By Your Name.”

Please Like Me.

Okay, so I just finished watching Please Like Me, an Australian gay-themed TV series, and I loved it! Karl started watching it so I joined him however I disliked it at first since I found the main character, Josh, egoistic and insensitive but things changed eventually (I don’t want to spoil) and I fell in love with it.

To give you a brief description about the series, it was produced by Australian Broadcasting Corporation (ABC) and ran from 2013-2016. Oh yes darlings, it ended already – and yeah it sucks! It wrapped up last 2016 and I just got to watch it this 2018. Though, I can say that it is still so relevant at this time. Additionally, Josh Thomas, who played as Josh, was also the creator, writer, and executive producer of the critically-acclaimed series. Continue reading “Please Like Me.”

5 LGBT TV and Web Series that You Should Watch

It is just very delightful to watch same sex love as the center of a series whether on television or online in these modern days. By that, same sex love is watched on many households thus proper understanding could blossom from there, resulting to widespread acceptance. Thought of homosexual relationship as total lust and sexual might be clear out now into what is truly larger – LOVE.

Alike to heterosexual relationships, there are uncertainties, awkwardness, and fears. Uncertain feelings if we really like the person or it’s just infatuation. Awkward moments during the getting-to-know and dating stages. And fear of losing the person due to mistakes, misunderstanding, differences, and destiny or God’s plan. However, most importantly, there are butterflies in the stomach, bravery, betterment, and inspiration.

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My Husband’s Lover

This is the first gay-themed series I’ve ever watched and it happened to be a Filipino original. I am just so proud with GMA 7 after pulling off this first ever gay-themed teleserye in Philippine TV history. I followed this series from beginning up to the end during my college days when I haven’t even came out to my family yet. The story revolves around Vincent who is married to Lally and has two kids however Vincent is a closeted bisexual. Conflict and confusion arise when he and Eric, his high school lover, met again. Continue reading “5 LGBT TV and Web Series that You Should Watch”

6 LGBT and Proud Movies

One way of showing to the world how LGBTs love each other is through the movies. Being fond of watching movies, movies that showcase same sex love is definitely a huge part of my movie checklist. I am very much amazed if real-life experiences, struggles, accomplishments in life and love of LGBTs are being portrayed.

My Bromance

Phi Chai or My Bromance revolves around two schoolboys named as Golf and Bank. Bank is the son of Golf’s father from another woman. These stepbrothers would eventually develop love for each other but conflict occurs when their parents get to know about their relationship.

This movie teaches us how to love without boundaries and fears.

In My Life

In My Life started with Shirley Templo, separated from her husband, who decided to move to New York after being dumped by her daughter Dang who plans to live in Australia. Shirley’s son Mark lives in New York with his boyfriend Noel. Problems arise when Mark and Noel started to deal with Shirley’s rude attitudes, Noel’s application for green card, and Mark getting sick.

This movie teaches us the importance of chances and changes we make in our lives. Continue reading “6 LGBT and Proud Movies”

4 “rainbow-friendly” night spots in Manila

ATTENTION: LGBT peeps and heteros as well! Thinking of going out tonight? Are you looking for a place where you can express your sexuality and be comfortable being happy and gay? Or are you straight who wants to explore new places and get drunk in a new environment?

Well, here are the 4 places that I could suggest which are either built for gay people or have gay-friendly atmosphere. Plus, due to my great night out experiences and cute guys who frequent them (if you’re looking for a good aura hehe).

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Today X Future

Today X (as me and my friends call it because it’s near from Cubao X) is a resto-bar and art gallery at the same time. They have artworks, music records, and books that you can view inside the place. There is a Cubao X shop-which-sells-vintage-items feels when you enter the place. They also feature artists with their art collection once in a while. It’s kind of small inside though they also set tables and chairs outside. Hippie customers frequent this place.

Address: 7-T Gen. Malvar St., Araneta Centre, Cubao, Q.C. 1109 Quezon City
Entrance fee: none
Table rates: none
Operating hours: Tuesday | 7 pm – 3 am
                                  Wednesday to Saturday | 7 pm – 4 am

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O Bar

O Bar has been the go-to place for 11 years of many gay patrons if they want to drink and party. I always end up having an awesome night in this bar because of the drag performers, ledge dancers, and great crowd. The drag performances are the best here in Manila plus the ledge dancers are all hot and handsome. You will get to meet new sets of people as well who are nice and fun to be with, that is if you are friendly and open for socialization. Yuppies and celebrities frequent this place.

Address: Ortigas Home Depot, Julia Vargas Ave., Ortigas, Pasig City Manila
Entrance fee: P400* Wednesday & Thursday
                          P500* Friday to Sunday
                         *inclusive of 3 local drinks or one cocktail
Table rates: P4,000* good for 4-6 pax
                       P6,000* good for 6-8 pax
                      *exclusive of entrance fee
Operating hours: Wednesday to Sunday | 10 pm – 6 am Continue reading “4 “rainbow-friendly” night spots in Manila”